QUOTE (senpai-kun @ May 04 2012, 10:21 PM) I give you props Yaya you're pretty hardcore and leave no room for that bond of trust & loyalty between friends there. I'll pose one last hypothetical for arguments sake though you may have already covered enough of your thoughts on the matter in your previous post. Let's say you are interested in a guy and he is aware that you like him. You go out on a double date with him (& friends) and you also pose nude (he gets to see your naked body free of charge) for him because he's a
"painter" and asks you too. Then you invite him out to see your band play and he accepts the invitation. True you are not boyfriend and girlfriend but he's not declining your advances and just going along with them.
So your best friend DSL (just for names sake lol) comes along with you and before the night is over she starts making eyes at him. She doesn't know that you like him at the time but the guy is fully aware that you like him and that she is your best friend. He blows you off and starts trying to hook-up with DSL instead. So you wouldn't feel somewhat betrayed (or used) by him or his actions?
Then we take it to the last step and you inform your best friend DSL that's the guy you've been trying to start a relationship with, who hadn't been declining your advances, until she came along. DSL says too bad I didn't know at the time but I'm not going to stop pursuing him just because you liked him first so just get over it. You don't think that you would feel somewhat betrayed by her your best friend in a situation like that? Sure ultimately you would have to get over it but to just chalk it up to
all's fair in love and war... It just seems pretty cold to do that to a best friend. Though maybe I'm just a naive person when it comes to expectations of my true friends. Has nobody else ever heard the saying
bros before hoes (or vice-versa) xD.
Bonds of trust and loyalty? Been on both sides of that fence and I will tell you it has cost me but in the end, walking away was the best thing I did,
for my sake, alone. I told you, I have always had that image of the boxer in the ring...he loses, he takes it on the chin and bows out gracefully...if I had truly loved you why stay? But I digress...
If all I had was the fact that he acted like he was interested in me and yet never really made a move by wanting to be in a relationship with me or have a spoken understanding that we were exclusive, I have nothing to fall on except my own face. Why get enthused when there is nothing said? If DSL comes along, and we still have not reached an accord where we are "together" she makes a play for him, not knowing I liked him first and that he "liked me" and then turns around and likes her...I ain't gonna feel betrayed by either one since me and handsome never got around to sealing the deal...I do not assume anything when it comes to men
no matter how much I may like you. Unless you fess up, it means nothing to me no matter how many times you make eyes at me...I have expectations if you are interested, but if all you are gonna do is "go along with it" and nothing more...you are free, as am I, to do as you wish. If it hurts and I was in the situation I just described, yeah, it would be a real blow to my ego/pride and we all know how we confuse wounded ego/pride with matters of the heart. Ah....
If I pose nude for you, I do so of my own free will since you are a painter. I got the goods and you wanna peek aside from painting me without any expectations? Who am I kidding but myself that he may fall just because I got it going on? Nah...as I am sure he, as a painter, has seen many in the buff...NON ISSUE.
If DSL and I get to talking about how they are an item then that's the way it played since he was not interested enough in me (in the first place) to even bother or consider my true worth...men of that caliber fall real fast in my book and are not worthy of any disdain on my part. I will not hold it against her since she was unaware in the first place...if she was doing it out of malice, that is a whole 'nother ball of wax...
But I suppose we are dealing with teens in the midst of angst and first time loves...hell, time and experience has taught me otherwise which is why this whole scenario currently playing out in this anime, between the main characters, is rather amusing more than anything else...