QUOTE (mosque @ Jun 06 2010, 02:34 AM) But let's say a man is with a two timing tramp who is mean and manipulating,
and he meets a gal whose smile is like sunshine.
He will move on to "something better."
It's easy for him, no dilemma.
That case is clear mosque san.
BUT!!! Guys often go for something better even if the woman at their side is nice, intelligent and loves him more anything. In fact, I often noticed that the more the woman is willing to do for the men, the less value she is in his eyes.
I think this has something to do with how people perceive others. Usually, people are on the lookout for the best they can get. So if a girl thinks she is something better than the guy, she is going to show him the cold shoulder. That usually spurs the guy to try harder until he gets her, or is charged for stalking... hahaha, just a little joke. But back to what I wanted to say, people who play hard to get are sending out the message: You are just not good enough for me, I am not interested in you, therefore I ignore you.
Well, on the other hand, if the girl is trying very hard to please her boyfriend, he deciphers this message as: "She is not good enough for me, thats why she is trying so hard, she wants to compensate for her flaws and wants to get me to like her despite not being good enough for me". This can be a total bullshit as the girl is simply in love and that is her way of showing her love to him. But people are rarely objective and thats how it comes across. So the more she tries to please him, the more distant he gets and she tries even harder and he distances himself even further... you get picture, right?
Anyways, I would like to point out, that the situation I just described doesnt apply to couples, who sincerely love each other. Such a situation usually arises, when one of the partnrs doesnt feel as strongly about the other.... and you know, that happens a lot!!!
Oh, and I support Hiasubi, I am not interested in dating celebrities either.